Any advice?

[KateChaos]

My best friend is moving to Brighton at the end of August and every time I think about it I burst into tears. There's noone else I care more about in this world and I can't stand the thought of him leaving. Its really getting me down and its starting to frustrate me that I can't be grown up about it. Help?


xo.

[Pioneer]

The World's a small place now-a-days, I still see friends from all over the country/world, just means you'll have to make every moment with your friend count, it may even bring you closer together :)

If you both make the effort there's no reason why can't see each other regularly.

[KateChaos]

I guess. But it's just the thought I see him every single day, we spend most weekends together and he stays at mine a fair few times a month. Its not the same as having the stability is it?

[Pioneer]

No, no it's not, I appreciate that.

However, adapt! :) Some people have friends killed and never see them again.

I reckon you 2 should see each other perhaps less often but longer if you see what I mean? Spend half terms together instead of weekends, and go camping for a fortnight in summer or something :) It'll all work out right, not to mention there's MSN, myspace, facebook, which isn't QUITE the same, but it's still contact, and that's comforting, ja?

[KateChaos]

Yeah :) Wise words, thanks. I guess the only thing to do it accept it. Everything at the moment is short lived because there isn't much point of doing anything. I've never really reacted well to people leaving - sheltered life as it were. Aside from my parents splitting when I was young, I've kept the same people around me. I hate the word adapt haha. Something I just don't want to do.

[Pioneer]

I know, sucks eh? PM me if you want to talk more in depth, I'd say spend as much time as you can with him, when he leaves, cope with it, cry, do whatever you feel you have to, then you'll be over it, and you'll start to see the silver lining :)

[KateChaos]

Tbh I think I've cried enough tears to sink the Titanic again since he told me! I suppose it'll show us if its a true friendship and worth the effort, huh? :)

[Pioneer]

Yep, now you're thinking! It'll be a test, see problems as challenges, not threats, don't think "oh, this is going to be so bad!" think "hmm... that's a sticky wicket, now how do I get around it?"

[KateChaos]

Sticky wicket, thats one I haven't heard before haha. I know you mean about the spending loadsa time together - my family have planned him a leaving party and everything :)

xo.

[Pioneer]

Well that's splendid! Have a jiving time and make it a night to remember then! :)

[mo .R.]

i agree with what pioneer said hun!! dont worry about it though just enjoy yourself me and pi are here if you want us!! *vertual hug* :D :D

[Elpheen]

One of my best friends lives in Brighton, and I see her pretty much every couple of weeks, trains are really good. My absolute best friend in the whole world lives in Derby and is at uni in Wales, so I see her at most once every two months... We just make sure that when we see each other it's for a few days at a time, and we text/call/msn/facebook each other pretty much every day... If it's that strong a friendship, no distance will change that :)

[Cowgirl36]

I have a friend who lives in Denmark, we havn't seen each other since the day she left 5 years ago (I cried a lot), but we keep in contact. I suppose in away our friendship has changed, we've both made new friends since then, but theres no reason for that to happen to you. There is so much tecnology and transport nowdays I'm sure it wouldn't take you long to get to Brighton or speak to them.